Entry #10. The Influence Childhood Experiences Have on Adulthood

   

    As children, we don't realize the long-term effects of traumatic events we witness. Sometimes, we don't even know we're going through traumatic incidents until we encounter something similar in the future. Since young children's minds are barely developing, they are so fragile and, therefore, shouldn't be shown conversations or situations too mature for them to understand. 

    While in your childhood, you are taught many things, but they might not all be positive. There have been multiple cases where children are taught to not show their emotional side and to not cry. Once you get older and encounter emotional situations, your immediate response is not to let those emotions out. In reality, it is very healthy to cry because it releases endorphins and oxytocin. When these chemicals get released, they relieve either your physical or emotional pain. When you're shown emotional neglect as a kid, you feel like you can't tell anyone what you're feeling or what you're struggling with. Still, as you get into adult relationships, you have to be open with your partner for them to understand you and help with whatever you're dealing with. When children experience negative moments, they jump into "fight or flight," if it's constantly turned on, they are entirely focused on surviving rather than learning skills that'll further help them in the future.

     It can be overwhelming to begin the process of healing your physical or emotional trauma, but there are many outlets to look towards for help. Not every therapist will be a good fit for you; you must look through multiple therapists to find one that aligns with your goals.